"Then the gods don't will it," Jon said. "I believe that you make your own destiny, yes, but if he doesn't want to be with you because you aren't ready to take a big step, it's his problem, not yours. I don't know that much about it, though. I've only been with one woman."

And Ygritte, as previously noted, was not a normal woman. She didn't want the normal things a woman wanted.